Haha, it’s weird, but I realized we’re on totally different trajectories. I’ve even started joking that I’ve somehow turned into an extrovert as I got older. 😅 When I was young, the only people I could be friends with were the extremely clingy ones who wouldn’t leave me alone despite my lack of enthusiasm. Lol.
But even though I have a lot more friends now, I’ve lost and let go of quite a few old ones. Some people just can’t stay with us forever, as I’ve also learned to walk away from others, too.
There’s this book called Anam Cara that makes me cherish and value friendships more. My only prayer now is that friendships find me in the moments I need them most—and that I can do the same for others, too. :)
Man, this really captures something that doesnt get talked about enough. The stock market crash analogy is spot on, especially how gradual it is in the twenties untill suddenly everything's tanked. I went through something similiar when everyone paired off and started families, felt like overnight I went from having plans every weekend to havingto schedule three months out. What actually helped was being more intentional about reaching out even when it felt wierd at first.
Normally I'm happy when people relate to my writing, but I'm sorry you had to go through that, too. Here's to the friends who stick around! I'm particularly proud of the stock market analogy. When that came to me I knew I had something.
i fully believe that friendships are seasons. sometimes they come and go, sometimes they stay forever, sometimes they make their rounds when they’re need. also really loved the fire analogy!! thank you for making me think, feel, and laugh. this was a wonderful read
I'm happy you enjoyed it! Thanks for taking the time. I definitely have friendships that I would describe like seasons who always manage to swing their way back through. Those sorts of relationships are important, because who would want an endless summer? You change with the rest of the seasons and when they come round again you need no new introduction.
Haha, it’s weird, but I realized we’re on totally different trajectories. I’ve even started joking that I’ve somehow turned into an extrovert as I got older. 😅 When I was young, the only people I could be friends with were the extremely clingy ones who wouldn’t leave me alone despite my lack of enthusiasm. Lol.
But even though I have a lot more friends now, I’ve lost and let go of quite a few old ones. Some people just can’t stay with us forever, as I’ve also learned to walk away from others, too.
There’s this book called Anam Cara that makes me cherish and value friendships more. My only prayer now is that friendships find me in the moments I need them most—and that I can do the same for others, too. :)
A Celtic book about friendships? Sign me the hell up! I'm happy to hear you have friends now! I hope they last and grow with you!
Thank you! And yes, I think you’ll love that book. It has a beautiful lyrical feel, on top of its meaningful message. ☺️
Man, this really captures something that doesnt get talked about enough. The stock market crash analogy is spot on, especially how gradual it is in the twenties untill suddenly everything's tanked. I went through something similiar when everyone paired off and started families, felt like overnight I went from having plans every weekend to havingto schedule three months out. What actually helped was being more intentional about reaching out even when it felt wierd at first.
Normally I'm happy when people relate to my writing, but I'm sorry you had to go through that, too. Here's to the friends who stick around! I'm particularly proud of the stock market analogy. When that came to me I knew I had something.
i LOVED this!!!
i fully believe that friendships are seasons. sometimes they come and go, sometimes they stay forever, sometimes they make their rounds when they’re need. also really loved the fire analogy!! thank you for making me think, feel, and laugh. this was a wonderful read
I'm happy you enjoyed it! Thanks for taking the time. I definitely have friendships that I would describe like seasons who always manage to swing their way back through. Those sorts of relationships are important, because who would want an endless summer? You change with the rest of the seasons and when they come round again you need no new introduction.